The Cheat Sheet for a Great Blow Job

CHEAT SHEET
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THE RULES
Set your own rules. Determine what it is that you like and what you don’t like. Do not ever let a man talk you in to doing something you are not comfortable with.

No Teeth! -  If there is one thing that you must, must, must remember about giving head it’s this – always cover your teeth! You can trail your teeth lightly over his head or shaft, but the minute he feels your incisors coming close to his penis he will tense up. Teeth have sharp edges and even nicks…that’s why it’s so important to keep your lips firmly wrapped around your teeth.

Lubrication is key. While there are several products on the market that you can buy, what truly works best is your own saliva. Before you take his shaft in to your mouth, wet his shaft harmonica style. Tip your head, open your mouth and, starting at either the tip or the base, run your open mouth up or down his shaft, letting your saliva collect in your mouth and seep out over his shaft. He’ll LOVE the combination of the warmth and the wetness of your mouth.
a. You can also use some kind of flavored topical gel (Good Head is a fantastic product!) and rub it on his shaft before you place him in your mouth. It will leave you with a pleasant taste and add a bit of a tingle to his…jingle.
b. Go ahead. Drool. That may seem a little “porn star-ish” for you but guys LOVE it. Just let your mouth fill with saliva, then lower your bottom jaw and let your saliva run over his head and shaft.  Even better, as you drool over the tip/head of his penis, pull away and let a light string of saliva trail from his head (or “glans”)  to your mouth. It’s dirty in exactly the right way!

TEASING
Blow It – Because the shaft and glans are so sensitive, any and all slight movements can be arousing. So, alternate between soft, cool blows (as if you’re trying to blow your nails dry) and warm breaths.

Make eye contact as often as possible. This is the most important way to make the act of Fellatio a two-way street. You want to feel connected with your partner? Look him in the eye. You don’t have to stare him down, you can look away from time to time. But definitely try to maintain eye contact for 2 second intervals from time to time. Guys like it because it lets them know that you are comfortable and willing to be doing what you’re doing. If they sense hesitation of any kind, then they will immediately tense up. This could prolong their orgasm or prevent it all together.

Keep Him Guessing – I know you think all a guy wants is a bit of a rub and a tug but that’s NOT true. Don’t go right for the penis! Flick the inside of his thighs. Run your nails up and down the outside of his thighs. Let your hair trail down his stomach. Maybe tease him with a few quick Blow Pop-like licks and then go back to licking and sucking his nipples or the inside of his thighs.

Talk Dirty – Ask him, while you’re out for drinks or in the car on the ride home, if he’d like for you to go down on him. Tell him you’ve been waiting all day to do it. Call him at work and tell him you can’t wait to see him because you’re dying to go down on him. He’ll be so turned on with all the teasing and fantasizing that a) he’ll he hard and  ready to go and b) he’s more likely to ejaculate sooner.

TECHNIQUES
Rattle and Hum – Slight vibrations on his shaft will definitely make him moan. Take the head of his penis in your mouth, slide your lips down about an inch and hum. Remember, all sensations are heightened when it comes to the penis because the skin is so thin. A basic “Mmmmmmmm” will do the trick. Plus, it will let him know how much you are enjoying pleasuring him.

Tongue Twisters – The frenulum (the small “v” on the underside of the head) is the most sensitive spot on his penis. So, be sure to pay it a lot of attention! Run your tongue around and around the tip of his penis. Clockwise, then counter clockwise. Flick your tongue quickly over the head (make sure to look him right in the eye when you do it.) Place the head of his penis in your mouth (just the head!) and suck inward as if you were sipping a straw. Then flick your tongue back and forth in a “z” like formation over his head.

The Blow Pop – When you’re about to begin giving him head, start off the act by wrapping your hand (either one, your choice) around the head. Then, while he’s either lying down or standing up, start at the testicles and lick his shaft alllll the way up. Nice and slow. (Eye contact!)  Do this maybe 3 times, alternating your starting points but making sure to go from bottom to top. That will get his genitalia lubricated and his engines revving.

The Tongue Slap - With your mouth wide open, stick out your tongue., Then, take his penis in your hand and gently slap the bottom of his shaft/head of his shaft against your tongue. The vibrations resulting from the light slaps will send shivers up his spine. Remember, the frenulum is located on the underside of the head and it’s incredibly sensitive. That’s what makes this move so hot for him. This also has a tendency to speed up ejaculation. So, if your jaw is growing tired you can always try this trick and give your mouth a rest while getting him closer to the edge.

London Bridge – While sitting up (and giving your jaw a rest) clasp your hands together as if you were praying. Then take your clasped hands and wrap them around his  shaft. Slowly stroke him up and down and, while doing that, gently squeeze your hands together. Do this while stroking his shaft. Think of it as a special massage.

Hand to Mouth – When you’re going down on him, and you’ve progressed to actually taking his shaft in and out of your mouth, make sure to use your hand with your mouth, Wrap your palm around his shaft (not too tight, but tight enough to simulate the tightness of your own genitalia. As your head is moving upward or down, let your hand trail along behind. That way you’re adding an additional sensation to the wetness and warmth. Doing this simulates actual intercourse. Alternate the tightness of your grip.

Sensation-al- Remember how we talked about how thin the skin of his shaft is? That’s because all of the nerve endings are closer to the surface of the skin. Want to make moan? Take your left hand (or right, doesn’t matter. Which ever you’re more comfortable with) and lightly (lightly!) pull the skin of his shaft taught and hold your hand there. To give you a better idea, imagine that you are putting a condom on his penis. Slowly unrolling it, pulling it down. That’s how you should be pulling his skin, in a downward direction. Then, using your other hand, slowly stroke his shaft up and down. (This would be a good time to do a little more drooling, too.) This is a great way to give your jaw a rest, too. This is what cock rings are for, so maybe pick up one or two!

The Two Fisted Handshake – Here’s another great way to give your jaw and mouth a rest while still staying in the moment. Wrap one palm around his shaft, then the other hand. With one fist resting atop the other, begin to twist light. One first should go clockwise, the other counter clockwise. Careful…don’t “wring” his penis as if it were a wet towel.

No Means No & Stir The Pot – With his penis in your mouth, slowly shake your head as if you were saying “no.” Make sure his shaft hits all the corners of your mouth. Your mouth does not have to be tightly clamped around his penis. Leave your mouth slightly open. A variation of this is to keep his penis in your mouth and move your head in a circular motion. First clock-wise, then counter clock-wise. Add your tongue to the mix and flick it across the head of his penis while you’re circling or shaking your head.

The Boys, The Twins..You Know What We Mean – If there is one thing that is universally asked for by men during oral sex it is Ball-Play. Alternate licks from the shaft to the balls. One great trick is to trace a figure 8 with your tongue over his balls. And, like you did with the tip if his penis, flick your tongue quickly and lightly (almost barely touching them) over his sac. Trace your tongue up and down the seam of his sac. Lightly handle the testicles while you have his shaft in your mouth. Slight tugs are also good but be gentle! Take each ball in your mouth and flick your tongue back and forth over it. Suck and nibble on each ball lightly while you have it in your mouth.

Deep Throating – believe it or not, guys do not actually expect women to deep throat. If you like a challenge, then you can certainly give it a go. Remember to breathe through your nose and SLOWLY take him inside your mouth. Once you’ve hit limit, your gag reflex will kick in. Taking it further requires practice. Don’t expect to get it the first time out. Just take a little bit more in each time. You’ll build up your gag reflex and will eventually be able to take him further in to the back of your throat. You can, however, perform a “fake” deep throat. While you’re taking him in deeper, flatten your tongue vertically until his penis hits it. This will appear to alter the depth of your mouth and he’ll think you’ve got him further back than he’s used to.

Ah One and Ah Two and Ah Three – This is a three part techniques that should be performed in unison. Part one is taking the glans (or “head”) in to your mouth and roll it around, Part two is stroking his shaft up and down while rolling the head of his oenis in your mouth and Part three is massaging his testicles. You’re hitting every possible hot spot.

Fish Face – This is where you take the head in your mouth and suck as hard as possible, as if you’re drinking from a straw and you’ve hit the bottom of the glass. Just be sure that your teeth are covered! To add some extra oomph, while sucking inward (like if you were doing a fish imitation) flick your tongue quickly over the tip of his shaft.

Over The Edge – One way to make his climax more intense is to bring him close to ejaculating, the stopping or slowing down your movements. Wait a bit, keep things slowed down for a minute, then go back at it at a quicker pace. Then slow down again. Make sure to pay close attention to his non-verbal cues. Listen to his breathing. Is it becoming labored or heavy? Then he’s getting close to climaxing. Have his moans increased or become more like growls? Have his hips begun to move as if he’s simulating actual intercourse? He’s almost there, baby!

A Different Kind of Pearl Necklace – Wear a string of pearls (or have one close to yoru bed or around your wrist.) While giving him head, sit up and let him watch you take the necklace off or retrieve it from where ever it is. Then, gently wrap the necklace around his shaft. Wrap it around until the whole string is around his penis. Then, wrap your hand around the pearls and slowly stroke up and down, keeping the pearls between your palm and his shaft.(Props to Jamye Waxman!)

The He-Spot – Like women, men have their own version of the G-Spot. For men, it’s the prostate. The prostate is located inside the anus, right behind the perineum. To stimulate the prostate, slid a lubricated finger inside the anus and wiggle it as if you were telling him to “come here.” If you do this while he is on the brink of orgasm it can intensify his climax. Now, not every guy is comfortable with manual/digital stimulation of their anus. This isn’t something you should surprise him with.

SWALLOWING
Swallowing – Swallowing isn’t for everyone. That’s why it’s very important, before things get too heated, to make sure you tell your lover whether or not you plan on swallowing. Guys are always willing to give a woman a signal to let them know when their about to come. Sometimes they’re just so turned on that they get lost in the moment and forget. One sign to look for is the tightening of his testicles. They almost appear to shrink a bit. That’s because they are getting ready to produce ejaculate/semen and are bringing the fluid closer to the ureter (the “tube” that transports urine and semen to the little “blow hole” at the tip of his penis.) His perineum (the “taint” or space between his testicles and the base of his penis) will also throb a bit just before he climaxes.

Let Him Arrive All Over You – Although most men prefer that women swallow because it makes them feel more accepted and loved, they’ll certainly settle for some of the following variations:
• Let him ejaculate on to your face. Again, it’s a bit “porn-star-ish” but that’s what they love about it.  Just watch your eyes! Semen can sting because it’s acidic.
• Finish him off with a hand job. Tell him you love to watch him erupt. Keep a Wet Ones cloth nearby so you can wipe your hand.
• Let him come on his own stomach, then gently and tenderly wipe him clean with a warm wash cloth. Remember, they don’t want to feel like you’re disconnected from them. Nor do they want to think you’re disgusted by their ejaculate.

They’re Not Just For Minty Fresh Breath – One way to improve the taste of his semen is to pop a Tic Tac in your mouth before giving him head. You can also try an Altoid or Halls cough drop but keep in mind that they contain a high level of menthol. If his penis is chaffed, that menthol could end up burning his skin. The menthol from the Altoid/Halls trick can also give him a little extra tingling sensation. Combined with the warmth of your mouth and that can be pretty hot! If the taste is just too much for you, ask him to make some dietary changes like adding pineapple, kiwi or strawberries to his diet and lightening up on the more acidic/malodorous foods like asparagus and fish. Ask him not to consume these things for at least 48 hours before you and he get it on.

POSITIONS/LOCATIONS
Mirror, Mirror – Want to make your own porn movie without worrying if it will show up on the internet? Perform oral sex on him while in front of a mirror. The best position is to have him laying down on his back and you in the reverse missionary position. Make sure he can watch your head movements and see his penis disappearing in and out of your mouth.

Crouching Tiger/Hidden Dragon – Have him stand up against the wall. Kiss him, then begin kissing a trail down his chest. Slowly lower yourself until your head is level with his penis. You don’t have to kneel at his feet. You can crouch down while you perform. An added suggestion? Wear nothing but a pair of high heels while you’re in this position.

The Ladle – This position simulates a ladle being dipped in to hot soup. He kneels at your head, to the side and “dips” his penis in to your mouth as you lie on your back.

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Comments

[b]

Fun! There's a lot of good stuff here. One thing you may want to correct though is the part about semen being acidic. It's actually alkaline, which is why it often has that slightly "bleachy" scent. This is meant to provide protection for the sperm against the acidic environment of the vagina. (they thought of everything!) From an article about semen testing:

Semen pH

Levels are measured to determine if the ejaculate is acidic or alkaline. Semen should be slightly alkaline. More acidic semen, combined with a low amount (volume) of semen, can mean there is a possible blockage in the ejaculatory ducts or even the absence of the seminal vesicles.

two words--rim job

[samra]

seriously i was really confuse coz i live in an orthodox society noone teaches u about sex this article actually saved my life i hope i now will have better sex life yuppee!!!!!

[The Drake]

All women should keep this as a companion. PERIOD.

[Mike]

Some comments

Eye Contact: If you look like you're saying "is this right? Am I making you happy?" that's kind of a turn off. If you're thinking "This is so hot", it's a turn on.

Tongue Slap: The taste buds are a plesantly stimulating surface. In addition to slapping, you can rub the head of the penis against the tongue. Watch the teeth when you do this.

Sensation-al: the area just below where the head joins the shaft is also particularly sensitive, a great place for a probing tongue.

Rattle and Hum: Low notes are best. I prefer a growl to a hum.

Fish Face: That sounds painful.

Over The Edge: There's a point of no return when stimulating a guy. If you stopped then, in a few seconds he would ejaculate without any further stimulation, but it's not a very satisfying ejaculation. Many guys aren't aware of it, since we tend to be kind of goal oriented. But if you slow down the speed of stimulation while maintaining (or increasing) the intensity of stimulation after the point of no return, you can produce much more powerful orgasms. This is probably more important for handjobs than blowjobs. And if you do it every time, the guy can become habituated, and it will loose it's power.

Let Him Arrive All Over You: Some guys may associate "Finish him off with a hand job.". or "Let him come on his own stomach" with negative feelings about masterbation or premature ejaculation. Have a few "hands only" sex sessions first to eradicate any negative associations.

The Boys. In my case at least, the line of skin on the scrotum that divides the testicles is the most sexually sensitve area.

Hot and cold drinks can be used to vary the temperature of your mouth. Be particularly careful with hot drinks i.e. swallow them before you take him back in your mouth. Extra effective on a blindfolded guy.

The He-Spot: Some guys are going to be uptight about any kind of anal stimulation. Some guys just have a thing about penetration, and will enjoy licking or lubricated rubbing on the anus as long as nothing goes inside.

Every man has two things in common. They all love 1) a good blow job and 2) a bad blow job.

Why? Because no matter what they are still getting a blow job. A bad blow job is better than no blow job.

[brainygirl]

Great info...I'll admit to being incredibly turned-on while reading it!
If there is one thing I could add, it would be: enthusiasm, even if you have to fake it until you make it.
What I mean, is, a lot of women have hang-ups surrounding giving blow jobs ("am I doing it right? is he ever gonna come? am I going to gag/vomit first?")and as a result can often appear distracted, concentrated, frustrated, worried, etc...all huge turn-offs, or so I gather.
What adds infinitely to a great blow job is a woman who really, really seems to be enjoying it, getting into it, giving it all she's got; like she's participating in some fabulous, sexy-time experience - not like she's doing her taxes. Let your inner porn star shine!

[Mike]

"Every man has two things in common. They all love 1) a good blow job and 2) a bad blow job.

Why? Because no matter what they are still getting a blow job. A bad blow job is better than no blow job."

Someone has never read "The World According to Garp"

[goddess]

My man and I have awesome sex. He is not very big at all.
But he is so awesome. My first husband was extremely big
but he couldn't compare to this one. I'm so in love with
him. The love making is so incredible. He faithful, he
doesnt cheat. He gives me All his money,every dime, and he
makes really excellent money. But we have a
major problem. I am a very bright skin, very attractive mixed woman. He doesnt acknowledge my black half and calls me cracker. He says that white women are better and he
cant stand black women, and now when we have sex
he says its the best pussy in the world, and says I make love like a white girl, and I dont know how to give good
head to me, he always says that those porn star bleeps
can learn from me, but he wont come. He says no one has
ever made him come yet. And iM not so experience with
giving head, but i look at porn and copy them and try
to outdo them but he still wont come. how can I make him
come for me. And even though he takes good care of me,
he makes me so insecure about his white girl comments and
even has me hating a whole race of people, my other half.
And he'll say unnessary out of the way things that drive
me crazy, and its almost disfunctional how can I be the
bigger person, and overlook the ignorance and stupidity
and just focus on a more satisfying, love filled relationship. Thanks so much for listening

[Mitch McDad]

I'm printing this and leaving it on my wife's pillow. Thank you!!!

[anon]

Can you post information about how to do all these things in a safe oral sex way?