A Personal Update

I thought I'd check in a bit and write a more personal post.

There's also a private blog post on the private blog. 

First, look for our brand new website design by next week. We're changing our brand a bit and shooting for the "dating expert/dating advice" image rather than the "singles events" image. I'm excited about the changes and very proud of the fact that when I say I'm going to make a change I do it. It's very satisfying to see your goals and intentions become reality. I'm still a little shaky on the whole "dating expert" moniker but my coach gas told me to "suck it up" (his words" and bite the bullet.

Second, we've been asked to be a consultant of sorts for an upcoming NBC series. Just for one episode. We're not just helping them find people to appear in their shows. I get those e-mail requests daily and I refuse to exert the energy for those things because it makes us sound important. They never give the company's that help them any promotion or credit. But this situation is different.  I'll have more details on that shortly, but the producer and casting people came to me because of this blog. And the blog wouldn't have the exposure without the readers so I owe you all a big thank you.

Our Fellatio Video Teaser Clip caused quite a stir amongst certain members of our Meetup Groups. Which is weird because the member would have to click a series of links and buttons before even getting to the clip and then they're greeted with a "Warning: Adult Content" disclaimer.  Odd that peopel would click a start button on something labeled "Fellatio Workshop Teaser" and then complain about the content. But then, no surprise to me that certain people like to look to other people to blame them for their misery or jealousy.

Got an e-mail yesterday from Meetup.com's admin staff. It appears, due to an incident in DC,  they're cracking down on event copy/description stealing. They were alerted to a certain other event organizer's now frequent choice to copy and paste the text from our events into hers. Guess they'll be handling that situation. So, thank you Meetup!

I've officially become a Twitter-er. See www.twitter.com.  You can send updates on your life via your phone and it automatically gets posted to a page set up for people to view. I'm a little adverse to the whole "Lookat me! Overshare!" thing but again my coach thinks it's a good way for customers and clients to feel like they "know" me and build a community.

SpeedDating, for us, will be a thing of the past starting in July. Sorry, guys, but speed dating is just not a viable way to meet people. It's also a terrible time suck for me. While we tend to net about $600 per event, even that is not worth the anxiety and stress we experience over filling them and running them. We had a woman attend one recently who announced, quite loudly at the end of one date, "Okay, get him out of here!" That was probably my breaking point. There's just too much negativity. I'm going to be filling those slots with teleclasses and workshops and panel discussions. The whole trend is dying, folks.

I've started working out twice a day, 30 minutes each. So, 3 times a week it's two workouts. One day a week it's just one. I take Saturday's off. Someone e-mailed me recently and asked how I stayed motivated. To be honest, I can easily become lazy. But a few weeks ago I was at the gym and on the treadmill next to me was a guy who appeared to have suffered some kind of stroke. His left side was impaired and his leg was bent in such a way that he could not walk without limping. There he was, on that treadmill, for at least a half an hour. When I get lazy ro feel tired, that's what I think of and it gets me out the door. You have to just go and do it. Don't think about it, don't assess your schedule and whether or not you have time. You have to just go and do it.

Photo shoot scheduled for June. Hence the hard core workouts. I need new photos for my website.

So, now you're all caught up.

Comments

[gq]

Sorry to hear that you won't be doing a speed dating event. One of my friends met her husband at a speed dating event. I'm not sure which one it was with. Can I suggest another class for you? How about a class on motivation to work-out? Look this is a great city with great resturants and there's always someone taking you out (for me it's vendor) and as for someone who's 36 - my butt is getting big.

[Sarah]

So glad you're giving up speed dating events. I've given it a try through a couple companies. Women were much more attractive than the men but men were much more friendly than the women. I always get e-mails from certain groups offering free admission for guys. Why should I pay when all these men are going to be there free?

[Moxie]

SARAH - As I said on the other blog, we comp men in too sometimes. It's either that or have more women than men. And the women in those situations are none too happy to sit alone for a couple rounds, which just adds a really heavy vibe to the room. But that's another reason why we're no longer doing them. Every group I know that holds speeddating events comps at least 25% if not more of their attendees into events (except Hurrydate.) That should be a sign to the organizers that something isn't working.

[isa.how]

great work mox!!!!

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[javier]

No one needs to buy a blowjob video, they need to rent a porn video. Tons of them are available free online. Google Briana banks, she gives great head.
Speed dating is horrendous, primarily because the "daters" don't really want to meet anyone, they use it as an interview, practice date, validation of their attractives and social event with their friends. The speed dating companies made a ton of money though off of suckers. I did a bunch of free ones, no paid ones and the hot or young girls women didn't match anyone, the organizers told me. The women tried to figure out how much money the guys made in 2 minutes. The 8 minute dates would be excruciating.

[Walden]

Good news for you Moxie. Although I did meet my GF at one of your speed events it was pure luck. Even we didn't hit it off spectacularly right away. In my opinion the majority of women at the events were very hard to please and looking for something they were not going to find at this type of event.

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[kat]

I'm starting to agree with the 'negativity' thing, from reading the blog topics... I have to say I did go to meet men at a dating event... I am friendly (and was friendly with all the men, whether I thought they were a good fit or not) and didn't match with anyone I put down, and I was kinda surprised! Cheers, all...

Good bye and Good riddance to speed dating ...but at least I tried it as a way to recover from a bad match.com experience...and to try avoid dating the many attractive people I meet in my work....already married and had 2 children with one of those so have to close the door on that possibility..... Having a 10 year hiatus from dating in NYC opens the door to all kinds of experiences, mostly pretty much better left in the PAST. Good luck with the TV gig, Moxie, please avoid too much reality show nonsense...show some people of assorted ages and sizes and colors too!!! Don't' be THE GAP, now!!!!!!

[mr-happy]

I'm not sure the extra workouts make that much of a difference, I follow a taoist method of food combination which helped me lose 20 lbs with no exercise at all - recommended -, I do 5 minutes burn workout and three or four times 1/2 on the stair climber and that works great.

They say the differnece between nothing and 3 or 4 times 30min a week is great, beyond that the gains are small. Now if someone does not eat that good perhaps the burning of extra colories occur, but many americans who are into fitnes s tend to over train, and all on hard exercises which can lead to injuries and chronic ones with pain as well.

Anyway sounds like things are going ok and your cutting out the dead weight.

[Jason]

Do you think that online dating works better than speed dating?