When Is Okay To Break Out The Porn

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Name: of  | Location: NY , New York |Question: Curious....What is the rule - or is there even one - on watching porn with your significant other? I'm no prude and watch it by myself sometimes, but I always thought that you shouldn't watch it with a guy if you want him to think of you as long term material. Backgroud: dating a guy for solid 4 months.. |Age: 31-female

YOUR THOUGHTS?

Comments

[nash]

Every guy is different. You should talk with your guy to see what his opinions are. If you need a way of bringing the subject up, you could mention that the state of California is thinking of taxing pornography and adult toys in order to close its multi-billion budget gap. Who knew Californians watched so much porn?

I watch porn occasionally on the internet and my girl has mentioned watching porn before. But I have zero interest in watching porn together. I don't think I'd judge her if she brought home a video unless it was something weird or extreme.

[dermqueen]

Why watch, Make it!!!!!!Then watch yourselves nothing is better than that!!!

[Brad]

Actually it would be the opposite - it would make you a keeper.

[isa.how]

I agree with Brad. Don't men want a lady in the street and a 'fuckqueen' in the bedroom?

Go for it girl!!

[VJ]

This has nothing to do with the porn. But the site today took forever to load. We're talking old dial up days time. It never did load for me until I hit the 'recent posts' button. So I suspect the Twitter' was hanging it up, as it was appearing to wait for that to load. I'm betting it's going to show up in the stats too. I'd dump it if it's causing that much trouble with the site. Just a thought. Cheers & Good Luck, "VJ'

[Althea]

I second VJ,
& I have 5 megs for bandwith.

[Denver Dan]

I'll 3rd Brad's comments and 2nd isa.how's. Definitely makes you a keeper!

[Denver Dan]

Oh yeah and I'll 3rd VJ's comments too. Twitter slows the site down almost to annoyance.

[TT T]

It's been four months and you have not broken out the porn yet...this relationship is doomed...just kidding.

No rules, just get on that lap top with your man, go on to youporn dot com and porn away, you porning porno you...As i man,
if my girl brought it up, I'd go with it, if anything because she's into it...

You porning porno lover you...

[A Tree in the Forest]

As most of the other guys have said, your willingness to watch porn together would be a huge plus in my book. A woman secure enough to not be threatened by it and who actually encourages watching it to re-ignite the passion after things have gotten a bit routine is a definite keeper (assuming all else is good, too). Bwow chicka bwow bwow! :)

[hb]

I would just casually mention that you've seen porn before and would not be opposed to seeing it again. If he is into it, then he'll take it from there. I don't think he would view you differently. I would say it would probably enhance your sex life, if it's already good and the communication and feelings are there.

[mr-happy]

I watched porn with a few girlfriends while we were having sex and it was supra-hot...

You have to feel out the situation.

Happy.

[jp doyle]

once you start having sex and want to spice it up more... my last ex and i watched porn after our 4th date!

[BISKIT]

Sorry to not be in sync with everyone else, but what are you trying to accomplish? You want to know when is it ok to watch porn, answer: anytime,

I am only trying to understand why would you ever want to. Is there a spark that is needed to be triggered? Hey I love porn as much as the next guy, but when I am having sex with a woman, the video is the last thing in my mind. -B

[OhRick]

Curious: You know, once and a while I like to watch a little porn.

Guy: Really?

Curious: Yes, it kinda gets me going!

Guy: Really!

Curious: So, how do you feel about porn?

Guy: (Feigning moderate interest, to cover major excitement) Well, nothing turns me on more than you, but It would make for a nice diversion... spice things up a bit?

Curious: Great!

Guy: So what kind do you like?

Curious: Hmmm! Beastiality, Interracial gang-bangs with major Bukkake scenes

Guy: Oh...

Caveat... One persons idea of porn is another persons perversion. Also, if your boyfriend may have some issues about measuring up with the on screen appendages? You might have an issue?

Communication is key... talk about this with your lover, just as you would with any new curiosity, desire or experimentation. Even during the show, you may clarify areas of interest and areas of non-intervention. A scene could register with him as something you want done to you, when you really don't!

Did I mention... communication is key?

[all's fair]

assuming it's soft-porn, the ladies fave, just drop a tape on the ground one evening while near the machine and say, "would I seem cheap/a tramp/sleazy to you if I admitted I liked some of this?" and see what the reply is.

Men need to know/should be able to handle that a woman is a sexual being, just like them. If he's going to be judgemental/sexist (it's for men, women shouldnt have those thoughts/needs) he's not a keeper. This may be a bit early if youre not intimate in that way yet.

On the serious side, if you need porn to 'get hot' and your guy doesnt do it for you otherwise, somethings wrong either with the relationship or you, and you might need some prof help. This is true for men or women.

And PS, if he runs from the room, CALL ME!!! U r a keeper!