Testing, Testing, One, Two, Three

I've mentioned Tad Hamilton before, right? (Obviously, TH isn't his real name.)Okay, so the last time Tad and I spoke was February. He wanted to come over. But, he said, he needed to tell me that he had recently been told he had HPV. Hook up canceled.He called me last night and asked if I was going to be around today. He wanted to "play.""What about the HPV?" I asked."Nobody else I've been with has contracted it so it shouldn't be a problem."Yeah. Um...that doesn't exactly put my mind at ease. Especially the "Nobody else I've been with" part. "I think my system beat it" he said.I never had any illusions about what Tad and I were or had. For 7 years, we've been on again/off again lovers when he's been in between (and, admittedly, in) relationships. Always used a condom, never got an STD from him, etc. I always assumed he had other partners and never cared. But hearing put to me that bluntly made me feel differently. I know that seems odd. I was kind of surprised by how...gross...I suddenly felt. Why did I suddenly feel like I was one some list some where of women he calls when he wants to "play?" And that I'm not even in the top two? It's one thing to know this in the abstract. It's another to have it presented to you so pointedly. READ THE FULL POST & COMMENT HERE: http://moxieblog.typepad.com/moxieprivate/2009/07/testing-testing-one-two-three.html

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Comments

[chris]

Maybe it made you feel Gross, because it made you feel like a commodity. Exactly what you said yourself you where one of the girls he calls when he wants "some" and your just as likely to be picked as another girl on "the list" as you say. If all you saw him as was good sex then he's just a tool as long as your using protection who cares treat him like one, if you felt something emotional for him then it may hurt you to feel like your not super special to him which is a shame, because your a good person in my book. Tad sounds like the kind of man I would consider very "high risk" because he sounds like he has TONS of partners and when he's horny he'll do anyone who answers the phone and throw caution to the wind.

I think a lower risk partner is someone who has the type of personality who needs at least a strong emotional connection to have sex/intimacy with someone, who does not give it up instantly [1st to 3rd date], and this gives A person confidence that there is at least something special about him/her, that they are not just having intimacy because they picked up the phone. The problem I think is the crazy shit kind of guys tend to be awesome in bed and then women forget about the safe stuff sometimes.

I do not feel your reaction is odd at all. Since you seem so much more in touch with yourself in the last year I would say your feelings are real and Guanine.

BTW A patient of my dad's did get a an STD from oral so to everyone who thinks that's safe "it's not" and we all need to pay more attention to dangerous sexual situations since because of these modern times we are more likely to be presented with them.

[trouble]

Kick Tad to the curb. Seriously. You don't need these kinds of headaches.

[lexus]

Yikes
Tad has balls for now!