The Skinny On Dating, Weight and Height

Private Blog Post - The Skinny On Dating, Weight and Height - A man's height and a woman's weight are the two big qualifying criteria that get held against them. But the funny thing is, I don't think any of us could ever correctly identify or guess either. If a woman puts her weight in her online dating profile (don't do that, BTW) and it's over 130 and they aren't at least 5'6", they will immediately be deemed "heavy." Guys, you haven't a clue what sizes look like on a naked body. But you hear size 10, 12 or higher and assume the woman is "fat." Ladies, you hear that a man's height is 5'7" and presume he'll barely graze the top of your head. Here's the funny thing about that. Most women couldn't correctly identify a man who's 5'7" if their life depended on it. Not only that, but most women I know don't even know how tall THEY are 5'5" or 5"6" isn't tall. And spare me the high heels thing, because you'll wear those MAYBE 4-5 times a month.
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[ShimmyGal]

I'm 5'2" and I prefer taller men, but I wouldn't necessarily NOT date a man who was short. I have dated short and tall, but it doesn't make a difference to me. However, if the guy is the same height as me or shorter than me, then yes, I don't think I would date him.

[sarah]

I'm 5'7" and can tell without a doubt when a guy has put 6' on his profile but is actually 5'10" (which is about the shortest I tend to go for).

[aw]

Many points to make ...

first off - you are correct, that the way someone looks naked is different than the perception just from vital statistics. I mean, I dated someone 5-foot-6, 140 pounds, who was not fat at all, and looked great. In jeans, she actually looked heavier than when she was naked. TMI, I know

Anyway ... the other thing ... I have determined that all women at 10 pounds heavier than they say, even the ones being honest. What I mean is, I think society has been programmed to believe that, say, 110 pounds is thin ... when really, 120 pounds is actually quite thin too.

My last GF would say she was 5-foot-4, 120 pounds. I didn't meet her online, I always knew what she looked like, and she had no reason to lie. She was a very fit ex-gymnast. But I weighed her one day, and she was 130 pounds.

This didn't make her any less attractive. In fact, she looks incredible.

As for the height thing, I have an issue with women taller than 5-foot-7 ... I am 5-10 ... and for whatever reason, I don't know if it intimidates me or what, or just doesn't feel right physically, but I can't do it. At least I admit it.

Funny, because whenever you see gorgeous actresses in a movie or whatever, they are usually the same height as the guy ... this makes it easier to film. In Hollywood, depending on the movie, the guys are either really short, or the women really tall.

Being with a taller women does it make it easier to have sex standing up, however :)

[iiliana]

Everybody wears weight and height differently. It depends on genetics,ethnicity, lifestyle, Posture etc etc.

As a woman who is 5'3 and weights 120lbs I feel more proportioned then I did at 135 where I was all Thighs. When my weight dipped down to 115 my family thought that it was too skinny. My friend who is Asian however is 5'2 and is 100Lbs and looks as if she is 4'11.

I actually prefer guys who are under 6'1 feet but not shorter than me when I wear heels. I just like being able to get a hug without a guy having to bow over.

[VJ]

I donno. I'm just here to restart this heated argument:

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1907143,00.html

Via Time.com & the Journal of Obesity

"First Comes Love, Then Comes Obesity?
By Bonnie Rochman Monday, Jul. 06, 2009"

"It's full-on wedding season, but anyone about to pledge to have and to hold should pay closer attention to the bit about "in sickness and in health." New research shows that within a few short years of getting hitched, married individuals are twice as likely to become obese as are people who are merely dating.

The study, published in the July issue of Obesity, set out to determine how romantic relationships affect the tell-no-lies number on the scale. Researchers tracked changes over a handful of years in the weight and relationship status of 6,949 individuals, and their findings don't bode well for commitment. Not only are married people more likely to become obese than those who are just dating, but young people who move in with a boyfriend or girlfriend tend to pack on the pounds too.

And in a twist sure to tick off all the ladies in the house, the study notes that unmarried women who have been living with their sweeties for five years or less run a 63% increased risk of obesity. What about unmarried men? On average, they have no increased risk during cohabitation.

"With women, we saw incremental risk after one year," says Penny Gordon-Larsen, one of the two nutrition epidemiologists at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (UNC) who conducted the study. "The longer she lived with a romantic partner, the more likely she was to keep putting on weight." Meanwhile, the risk of obesity among guys — married and unmarried — spikes only between the first and second years of living together."

Psst! It's True! Marriage makes you fatter...

Sorry about that. So does 'co-habitation'. Cheers, 'VJ'

[laughoutloud]

i think it's hilarious when you see short women online (5'3 and under) posting for men (5'10 and over).
Hello? 5'7 guy would still be "taller" than them,even with heels. Yet, they rule them out.

* not a guy, btw.

[NYConsultant27]

As for laughingoutloud, I think its a matter of personal preference. It's not about wanting a guy taller than me, it's about liking guys that are taller than average. I gotta say, I'm 5'2 and wouldn't date a guy under 5'11. I KNOW! But I can't help it, it's what I'm attracted to. Surprisingly a lot of super tall guys seem to be in to the shorties. I don't think I've dated a guy under 5'11 in at least 8 yrs. Long live shorties! I also like guys that are pretty skinny, not beefed up. It's just what I like.

I totally agree with Mox that people wear weight differently. Over the years I've ranged in weight from 104 to 120, and even at 120 friends and family would say, 'are you eating enough?' My skinny ass dad actually sat me down one day to talk to me about eating more, guess he thought I had a disorder. I have no idea why but I appear lithe. And at 120 I still fit into my size 2 jeans... no muffin top! ick. So looking at myself in the mirror, I think to myself if anyone thinks 120 is overweight for 5'2 they're loco. But the thing is people really do carry weight differently. Also muscle weighs more than fat, maybe that factors in.

So at 5'2 and 110, where I'm at now, I'm a skinny mini and have no ass. I am by no means bragging, I seriously considered butt implants until I saw the Oprah show about wearing jeans with pockets to give the illusion of ass. My boyfriend expressed serious concern that I might fall below 100.

So I say, if you like the way you look, weight is just a number. Unlike age, which can seriously dick you over.